Self-compassion or self-love may be a foreign concept for some people. This is especially true for those who were raised in abusive or unloving homes, where compassion may have been non-existent.

Self-compassion refers to a way of relating to the self — with kindness. It is not to be confused with arrogance or conceit, which usually indicates a lack of self-love.

“When we are mindful of our struggles, and respond to ourselves with compassion, kindness, and support in times of difficulty, things start to change”.

Having self-compassion means being able to recognise the difference between making a bad decision and being a bad person. When you have self-compassion, you understand that your worth is unconditional.

When we have self-compassion, we are less likely to depend on others to validate our self-worth.


A new therapy home…

July 2019 was moving time, we said a sad goodbye to The Bone Yard and all it’s wonderful residents, and a warm hello to Market House c/o Chapter Arts Centre in Canton. With a new room came a new name, ‘Therapy at The Derw’.

Our space has taken bucket loads of imagination, creativity and TLC to transform it into the unique and beautiful therapy room it is now.

Below are some before and after photographs…

We are now settled into our new therapy home, and excited about the fresh possibilities it may bring our way.




Being mindful means focusing wholly and completely on the present task and present moment.

Paying more attention to the present moment – to your own thoughts and feelings, and to the world around you – can improve your mental wellbeing.

Some people call this awareness “mindfulness”. Mindfulness can help us enjoy life more and understand ourselves better. You can take steps to develop it in your own life.

Becoming more aware of the present moment can help us enjoy the world around us more and understand ourselves better.

When we become more aware of the present moment, we begin to experience afresh things that we have been taking for granted.

How to be more mindful

Reminding yourself to take notice of your thoughts, feelings, body sensations and the world around you is the first step to mindfulness.

Mindfulness practices aren’t new – they have Buddhist origins and have been around for thousands of years. For decades now, scientific research has been showing how useful these therapies are for reducing stress, anxiety and depression, helping people manage a wide range of physical conditions, and for our general wellbeing. So mindfulness isn’t only useful if you’re feeling stressed or have a mental health problem – it can help any of us enjoy a more wakeful, healthier, happier life.

Anyone can learn and practise mindfulness; children, young people and adults can all benefit. It can be learnt in person, either through a group course or one-to-one with a trained teacher. There are books, audios and videos and online courses too, where you can learn through self-directed practice at home.